Guilty by association...

Have you ever felt that you were being pre judge by someone by something that you had no contol over such as race, gender, height, weight, etc.? Well I feel at times that my sons father lumps me in with the gagle of baby mommas he has delt with or seen or heard of. Now I haven't even had my baby yet so far I feel as though I have changed for the better I realize that my decission don't just affect me it affects all of us. So when I have a choice to make I even consider his opinion. I have never been a selfish person who does this just for my benefit. It hurts me when he says negative things about things I could possibly do just because I am a woman, a black woman. He always says that I am different (in a good way) than any of the women he has every dated but he keeps tryin to lump me in how should I feel about this?... What should I do?...